I’m well aware that I’m pretty late to the bandwagon with a post on resolutions. But, with mocks and a crazy, tough beginning to the year, I just haven’t had the time to write. UCAS applications and Year 13 have been a struggle and the worst is yet to come with exams in Summer. I’ve realised that if I want to reach my full potential then I need to adapt my attitude to help me have a healthier mindset. Here’s what I’ve been thinking…
In 2019, I want to focus on… the positives
Rather than concentrate on all the shortcomings of an event or emotion, I’m going to try and understand how they may have actually been helpful. It is definitely easier said than done, but I’ve been listening to the How To Fail with Elizabeth Day podcast for far too long not realise that failure is necessary and almost always inevitable. This includes facing little obstacles on a daily basis and focusing on the benefits that they bring rather than the downfalls. If I miss the bus, forget a textbook at home or make a silly mistake in a test, I refuse to let it ruin my day. I’m going to take my experiences of failure and try and work out how I can learn from them. They will be lessons and a chance to learn how to improve. They do not define me but instead will help me become a better person in the future.
I faced a pretty huge failure only a few days ago and I’m so proud of how, when I discovered the result, I focused on how it helped me to grow as a person. I am grateful for the experiences that came out of the opportunity and am thankful for the memories and what I learnt. I am not going to let it make me feel inadequate. Instead of constantly thinking of what I may have missed, I’m excited about what I will have instead. That is what is most important.
In 2019, I want to focus on… getting more sleep
Ever since receiving a Fitbit for Christmas (such a brilliant present!), I have become more aware of exactly how much I sleep each night. The hours tracked (or rather the lack of them) gave me a massive shock and I’m adamant that it’s something I must improve. This year, I want to fall into a fixed routine and focus on going to sleep at the same time each night. It may not be possible but I’m just going to be realistic and give it my best attempt.
This focus on an earlier bedtime was also triggered by the fact that the main emphasis in the Nobody Panic podcast on happiness (Tessa and Stevie are fully my heroes) was the way in which feeling cheerful was directly linked to sleep. It’s so obvious and highlighted again and again but something that is so easy to ignore. I need to wake up and address the issue (or not- see what I did there?).
In 2019, I want to focus on… a better work/ life balance
Whenever there is a revision period, I become consumed by my work and it is pretty much all I can think about. This happened during GCSEs, Year 12 exams and has felt the same during mocks too. When I’m working, I worry that I’m not being efficient or productive enough. Yet, when I put the pen down, I’m anxious that I’m wasting time if I’m just watching TV or relaxing. It is exhausting and relentless. I’ve spoken to quite a few of my friends about this and they all seem to have the same experience. It needs to stop. What I’ve concluded is that I’m being ridiculous. I’m adding unnecessary stress on top of everything else and it isn’t helping. If I want to do well, I have to make time to switch off. I have to learn to let go. I can’t control everything.
In order to improve, I’m going to aim to put more energy into this blog and to read as much literature as I can alongside my work. Therefore, I’ll have the opportunity to have a well-deserved break in the evenings to distract me from revision. I’m going to spend more time with friends during revision periods and make sure to catch up with family. I am going to continue going on runs in the morning to enjoy the fresh air and escape my desk and maybe find different places to study to add some variety to my routine. Let’s hope it helps!
In 2019, I want to focus on… what I love
- more running
- more yoga
- more listening to podcasts
- more time with friends
- more day trips with family
- more reading
- more writing
- more listening to vinyl records
- more travelling
- more bookshops
- more museums and art galleries and trips to the theatre
Are you facing any of the same problems? Do you have similar goals for the new year? Let me know in the comments!